The eyes are made to see

We get what we came for-
*Matthew 6:22 “The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.”

*A quote by Thomas Manton, “Your eyes are the guardians of your heart.”

*2 Corinthians 11:14 “And no wonder! For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light.”

You ever watch a horror movie and afterwards scared out of your wits, because you believed some evil force was out to get you? As an adult, you even slept with the lights on?

The word supernatural is used for good or evil. The good has the intention of blessing you in a mighty way. For instance, many prayers include the words, “May God give you supernatural insight and wisdom to see through the devil’s lies.” Then the evil has the intent of producing fear, doubt or guilt. For example, supernatural films, closely linked to paranormal, have themes of ghosts, demons, spirits…used to frighten those who watch it.

But what do we expect when we watch movies like that? The movie is intended to make us scared. And they do this in honesty. Meaning they tell us the truth about what type of movie it is, so we know its intentions before we watch it. That’s why they’re called horror and thriller. You want drama, then watch drama. You want suspense, watch suspense. You want humor, then watch comedy. You want romance, then watch romance. Certainly, you will get what you came for.

I’m always taking inventory of what I watch. Especially when my enthusiasm for purpose is dull. Because, what I see transfers information to my heart and mind. It gets downloaded there, transcribed there and ultimately gets saved to hard drive (my soul).

I have to be mindful of what I watch. Not only for my sake, but for my children. Because what I see and perceive will always affect those around me. I watched Game 3 of NBA finals last night. And I was hyped. My daughter said, “Wow mom, you must really love this game.” I’m one of those people that only watch the finals in any sport. Nonetheless, I was in awe of Steph Curry. His team-mates, Kevin Durant and Klay Thompson were out injured so the outcome relied heavily on Curry’s actions; how well he can play the game. He had the weight of Game 3 on his shoulders. His love for the game of basketball was inspiring. Just when I thought he was physically tired, he would fight to gain possession of that ball. What I was watching, impacted my mood and behavior so much, that my daughter noticed.
Today, I make the commitment to guard what I see and what my children see.

I AM my own best friend.

I’m sure the rapper Ice Cube was referring his song: “Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself” in a different manner than what was revealed to me.  Nonetheless, this song title says what I know to be true.  I have to check my inside voice because she’s here to wreck havoc- she’s vile!  And dangerous.  And she kills confidence and dreams.  She disparages very hope I wish to have.  She’s uneducated- because she only has one train of thought.  She’s obnoxious and intrusive.  And she was apart of me.

I wondered why the advice I tell others is not the I tell myself.  My council to myself is so mean: “You need to do this.  You should do this.  You gotta be better- better- better…” But my advice to others, even new people I don’t know, is always uplifting and in love: “You can do it.  You’re awesome.  Trust the process.  You’re not perfect, no one is.  Be gentle and kind with yourself.”  It’s always words of hope, founded in the word of God.

I understand, many of the things that happen in my life are to build upon what I already have- it’s character-building at its finest.  God is in the character-building business.  Even though, I understand this process, I’d typically look at opportunities as something I may mess up.  So anxiety is there because perfection is there then I miss the lesson.  The opportunity is there to refine character.  And our inner voice should serve as a moral of support.  To help build something in us, that we usually don’t realize it needs to be built. When people say “Listen to your inner voice” that’s only effective if your inner voice serves you into your best self!

Therefore, it’s time to replace the criticizing voice with the sincere, motivating life coach. It’s time to cast out that disapproving, nitpicking, judgmental, faultfinding, unsympathetic, belittling voice inside.  And welcome the voice of stillness, kindness, gentleness, praising, accepting, love, sympathetic and understanding- my authentic voice!  My voice of innocence and wisdom that makes me faithful and true! 

Affirmation: I AM my own best friend. 20190503_105016_00006181359640949167477.png

 

 

 

 

To Love Like a Child:

“I love you John” my four-year old daughter said to the elderly man I take care of. He didn’t say anything.

“I said, I love you John” with a little more ‘umf’ in her voice. He kept walking away.

“Mom- John didn’t say anything. He didn’t say he loves me” she said with suspicion. Obviously, she did not understand why someone we cared for, wouldn’t say those three important words.

To prevent further uncertainty in that four-year old soul of hers, and to stir up empathy in his, I said: “Hey, John- Sahar said she loves you. I think you hurt her feelings when you don’t say it back.”

“I-I-I-I-I-I love you Sahar” he stuttered. He kept walking away.

Immediately, she smiled and did a full twirl with her arms wide open. It was evident. She found what she was looking for.

Since then, this same scenario has happened quite a few times; but yesterday was different.

After my four-year old told John she loves him, with eye contact and a smile, without any directions from me, he declared “I love you too!”

That moment was a breakthrough!

The Holy Spirit revealed something profound to me this morning that I hadn’t considered before. My four-year old had displayed what God wants to see in us. To love those who need love but aren’t easy to love. There are millions of people who are so hard to love that society gives up on them. We’ve developed this narcissist type of attitude: I don’t have time for this. Shoot, if he/she doesn’t want my love, so be it. I will not force something they obviously don’t want.

But what if Jesus had this same type of attitude? Where would you and I be? Because I can say with confidence that we were not the easiest ones to love. But God being who He is, a God of love, made it His mission to show you and me, that: I truly truly truly do love you!

The Parable of the Lost Sheep found in Matthew 18:10-14 describes the importance of showing that one lost sheep, that he/she is not forgotten. Love will bring back the lost because it’s the weapon that conquers fear. A little child never gave up in professing her love to someone who didn’t reciprocate it back. She didn’t allow offense and feelings to hinder her mission. She pursued a need with determination- and she won! John won! Jesus won! Love won! This is the face of victory!

Love today, those you see left behind and forgotten. Through our actions and declaration of love, their hearts will be mended internally to receive what God’s trying to give them.