I AM my own best friend.

I’m sure the rapper Ice Cube was referring his song: “Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself” in a different manner than what was revealed to me.  Nonetheless, this song title says what I know to be true.  I have to check my inside voice because she’s here to wreck havoc- she’s vile!  And dangerous.  And she kills confidence and dreams.  She disparages very hope I wish to have.  She’s uneducated- because she only has one train of thought.  She’s obnoxious and intrusive.  And she was apart of me.

I wondered why the advice I tell others is not the I tell myself.  My council to myself is so mean: “You need to do this.  You should do this.  You gotta be better- better- better…” But my advice to others, even new people I don’t know, is always uplifting and in love: “You can do it.  You’re awesome.  Trust the process.  You’re not perfect, no one is.  Be gentle and kind with yourself.”  It’s always words of hope, founded in the word of God.

I understand, many of the things that happen in my life are to build upon what I already have- it’s character-building at its finest.  God is in the character-building business.  Even though, I understand this process, I’d typically look at opportunities as something I may mess up.  So anxiety is there because perfection is there then I miss the lesson.  The opportunity is there to refine character.  And our inner voice should serve as a moral of support.  To help build something in us, that we usually don’t realize it needs to be built. When people say “Listen to your inner voice” that’s only effective if your inner voice serves you into your best self!

Therefore, it’s time to replace the criticizing voice with the sincere, motivating life coach. It’s time to cast out that disapproving, nitpicking, judgmental, faultfinding, unsympathetic, belittling voice inside.  And welcome the voice of stillness, kindness, gentleness, praising, accepting, love, sympathetic and understanding- my authentic voice!  My voice of innocence and wisdom that makes me faithful and true! 

Affirmation: I AM my own best friend. 20190503_105016_00006181359640949167477.png

 

 

 

 

To Love Like a Child:

“I love you John” my four-year old daughter said to the elderly man I take care of. He didn’t say anything.

“I said, I love you John” with a little more ‘umf’ in her voice. He kept walking away.

“Mom- John didn’t say anything. He didn’t say he loves me” she said with suspicion. Obviously, she did not understand why someone we cared for, wouldn’t say those three important words.

To prevent further uncertainty in that four-year old soul of hers, and to stir up empathy in his, I said: “Hey, John- Sahar said she loves you. I think you hurt her feelings when you don’t say it back.”

“I-I-I-I-I-I love you Sahar” he stuttered. He kept walking away.

Immediately, she smiled and did a full twirl with her arms wide open. It was evident. She found what she was looking for.

Since then, this same scenario has happened quite a few times; but yesterday was different.

After my four-year old told John she loves him, with eye contact and a smile, without any directions from me, he declared “I love you too!”

That moment was a breakthrough!

The Holy Spirit revealed something profound to me this morning that I hadn’t considered before. My four-year old had displayed what God wants to see in us. To love those who need love but aren’t easy to love. There are millions of people who are so hard to love that society gives up on them. We’ve developed this narcissist type of attitude: I don’t have time for this. Shoot, if he/she doesn’t want my love, so be it. I will not force something they obviously don’t want.

But what if Jesus had this same type of attitude? Where would you and I be? Because I can say with confidence that we were not the easiest ones to love. But God being who He is, a God of love, made it His mission to show you and me, that: I truly truly truly do love you!

The Parable of the Lost Sheep found in Matthew 18:10-14 describes the importance of showing that one lost sheep, that he/she is not forgotten. Love will bring back the lost because it’s the weapon that conquers fear. A little child never gave up in professing her love to someone who didn’t reciprocate it back. She didn’t allow offense and feelings to hinder her mission. She pursued a need with determination- and she won! John won! Jesus won! Love won! This is the face of victory!

Love today, those you see left behind and forgotten. Through our actions and declaration of love, their hearts will be mended internally to receive what God’s trying to give them.