I AM my own best friend.

I’m sure the rapper Ice Cube was referring his song: “Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself” in a different manner than what was revealed to me.  Nonetheless, this song title says what I know to be true.  I have to check my inside voice because she’s here to wreck havoc- she’s vile!  And dangerous.  And she kills confidence and dreams.  She disparages very hope I wish to have.  She’s uneducated- because she only has one train of thought.  She’s obnoxious and intrusive.  And she was apart of me.

I wondered why the advice I tell others is not the I tell myself.  My council to myself is so mean: “You need to do this.  You should do this.  You gotta be better- better- better…” But my advice to others, even new people I don’t know, is always uplifting and in love: “You can do it.  You’re awesome.  Trust the process.  You’re not perfect, no one is.  Be gentle and kind with yourself.”  It’s always words of hope, founded in the word of God.

I understand, many of the things that happen in my life are to build upon what I already have- it’s character-building at its finest.  God is in the character-building business.  Even though, I understand this process, I’d typically look at opportunities as something I may mess up.  So anxiety is there because perfection is there then I miss the lesson.  The opportunity is there to refine character.  And our inner voice should serve as a moral of support.  To help build something in us, that we usually don’t realize it needs to be built. When people say “Listen to your inner voice” that’s only effective if your inner voice serves you into your best self!

Therefore, it’s time to replace the criticizing voice with the sincere, motivating life coach. It’s time to cast out that disapproving, nitpicking, judgmental, faultfinding, unsympathetic, belittling voice inside.  And welcome the voice of stillness, kindness, gentleness, praising, accepting, love, sympathetic and understanding- my authentic voice!  My voice of innocence and wisdom that makes me faithful and true! 

Affirmation: I AM my own best friend. 20190503_105016_00006181359640949167477.png

 

 

 

 

To Love Like a Child:

“I love you John” my four-year old daughter said to the elderly man I take care of. He didn’t say anything.

“I said, I love you John” with a little more ‘umf’ in her voice. He kept walking away.

“Mom- John didn’t say anything. He didn’t say he loves me” she said with suspicion. Obviously, she did not understand why someone we cared for, wouldn’t say those three important words.

To prevent further uncertainty in that four-year old soul of hers, and to stir up empathy in his, I said: “Hey, John- Sahar said she loves you. I think you hurt her feelings when you don’t say it back.”

“I-I-I-I-I-I love you Sahar” he stuttered. He kept walking away.

Immediately, she smiled and did a full twirl with her arms wide open. It was evident. She found what she was looking for.

Since then, this same scenario has happened quite a few times; but yesterday was different.

After my four-year old told John she loves him, with eye contact and a smile, without any directions from me, he declared “I love you too!”

That moment was a breakthrough!

The Holy Spirit revealed something profound to me this morning that I hadn’t considered before. My four-year old had displayed what God wants to see in us. To love those who need love but aren’t easy to love. There are millions of people who are so hard to love that society gives up on them. We’ve developed this narcissist type of attitude: I don’t have time for this. Shoot, if he/she doesn’t want my love, so be it. I will not force something they obviously don’t want.

But what if Jesus had this same type of attitude? Where would you and I be? Because I can say with confidence that we were not the easiest ones to love. But God being who He is, a God of love, made it His mission to show you and me, that: I truly truly truly do love you!

The Parable of the Lost Sheep found in Matthew 18:10-14 describes the importance of showing that one lost sheep, that he/she is not forgotten. Love will bring back the lost because it’s the weapon that conquers fear. A little child never gave up in professing her love to someone who didn’t reciprocate it back. She didn’t allow offense and feelings to hinder her mission. She pursued a need with determination- and she won! John won! Jesus won! Love won! This is the face of victory!

Love today, those you see left behind and forgotten. Through our actions and declaration of love, their hearts will be mended internally to receive what God’s trying to give them.

You Didn’t Ask

Today while I was praying, I asked God for clarity on a situation that was bothering me. I knew someone was in need and I didn’t help him because I didn’t feel like dealing with that spirit of drama. I asked the Lord to reveal an answer. Do I help or not? And it was revealed unto me while I prayed: he didn’t ask you for help. I recalled the previous text messages, and that was right. He asked if I knew anyone that could help him. But he didn’t ask me directly. I heard the Holy Spirit whisper in my ear, “he didn’t ask, he didn’t ask, he didn’t ask…”

Because of the repetitiveness, I had to look at this in the spiritual. Do we ask Jesus directly for help? OR do we always text somebody, make a post on social media and ask others to “pray for me?” Why not ask God directly and make your requests known to Him yourself? The Holy Spirit is saying: if you need something, ask. Don’t send Tommy, Susan or Mike to ask, nor beat around the bush- just ask! If you can text: Pray for me…, you can utter, Help me Jesus with…

When we don’t ask directly there are reasons for it. We either don’t believe God will supply that specific need, so why bother. Or the egoic mind wants to feed its victim mentality. Or you really don’t need the help, healing or deliverance at all. Human nature will approach needs like this- they convey their problems but won’t ask directly for help. In their minds they already made their requests known by opening up. They rather spill their life story and complain than ask for help. And if you don’t respond the way they want, they get frustrated. And so, the victim mentality continues. To me, this is what the egoic mind looks like.

If I knew there is a man not far from me at all, healing and delivering people from every sickness and disease, I would run fast to him and say I need healing from this….I need deliverance from this….I need help with this….I mean really people, come on. There’s no need to suffer the way most of you are. Just ask! Just make sure after you make your specific need known unto God you say, “In Jesus name.” That’s like applying the postage stamp to a piece of mail. For that request to be delivered, we must acknowledge the healing power of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

Faith Friday

Faith- “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and CERTAIN of what we do not see.”- Hebrews 11:1

Faith is the link to our Creator, God Almighty. To have access in the spiritual realm requires total faith in God the Father, Jesus, the son of God, and the Holy Spirit.

Faith and doubt don’t coincide with one another. Worry doesn’t exist in the realm of faith. But faith and trust live together. In other words, you can’t doubt what you hope for.

When Jesus of Nazareth healed anyone, there was only one requirement, one prerequisite, one necessity- FAITH! Not money, gold nor silver, not social status or class, but FAITH! So, if we believe with total certainty the promises of God, as it’s written in His word. And trust that whatsoever you need from God, He shall deliver according to His will.

You may ask, “What is His will? What are these promises you mentioned?” God’s will and promises (along with clear ‘how to’ instructions) are located in the bible.

It’s your choice to decide, to have faith or not. And God said, He can work with a mustard seed of faith (paraphrasing). There’s NEVER loss in faith. There’s ALWAYS gain.

Faith in the mature believer should be used to build up the church and community. I learned that having faith for others, builds up my faith as well. Faith indeed, grows!

I petition you to increase your faith today by hoping with certainty, the healing and deliverance for someone else in need. See that person completely restored, walking in victory. God will get the glory!

The Deep Waters

Proverbs 18:4
“The words of the mouth are deep waters, but the fountain of wisdom is a rushing stream.”
Amazingly, the bible also indicates that intentions of the heart are deep waters; as well as words of a man’s mouth. So, we have intentions and words as deep waters.
Which made me dive into (not literally)- what is the meaning of deep waters? In other translations, and also reading about Noah and his situation with the flood, deep waters refers to the ocean (underground water).
This verse continues to strike me for some reason. Why would God refer what comes out of our mouth and the intentions of our heart to an ocean? And then it hit me, like a tide coming in to breathe.
So, journey with me on this…
Deep waters can bring tranquility. There’s nothing more serene than watching the still waters of the ocean. The sound of its constant waves has put millions of people to sleep at night. Shout out to You-tube. Its massiveness illuminates my mind, enhancing its ability to imagine and dream bigger. When I stand in front of an ocean, it’s like I become more alive; and time stops!
Deep waters can bring devastation. One tsunami can wipe out thousands, just like that, without any warning. As we just seen recently in Indonesia; which the death poll has surpassed 1,900 people. Deep waters can be a part of a great flood, wiping out living creatures and homes. They can bring destruction like a hurricane. They can be treacherous and cause death.
Intention is what deciphers the ocean’s movement: whether it will be vengeful or calm. What has your heart’s intention and mouth been moved/conditioned/prepared to do? For instance, an earthquake moves the ocean into a tsunami. Just like heartbreak moves our mouths to speak words of bitterness; which, spills into the lives of others.
I like to challenge us all. To be conscious and consider the value of every word we speak internally and out loud. Are you speaking a tsunami that will destroy others’ dreams, confidence, their hopes…? Is your internal dialogue causing hurricane after hurricane in your own life? And it’s not even hurricane season. Or, are you speaking words of stillness that will calm the restless? That will give hope to the hopeless and wisdom to the understanding?

 

Wisdom is a Process

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The meat for me was verse 10: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”
Clearly, wisdom begins with the fear of the Lord. Those who don’t fear the Lord, don’t have wisdom. So, what does that look like? What does it mean to fear the Lord?
When I began to allow my mind to wonder on this concept, I compared our connection with God, to one’s connection with their soul-mate. There’s a process involved before we even get to the “fear of the Lord.” And it flows something like this:
1. Earthly: A man and woman who meet, both know they’re soul-mates. How? Their togetherness brings the same feelings as home brings.
Spiritual: Once we recognize that Jesus is calling, we give our attention to that calling. How do we know Jesus is calling? You get a tug that feels like home when your internal being has felt homeless. Next step is communication.
2. Earthly: You engage in conversation, you laugh, you establish a respectful and effective way to communicate. You get to know his/her likes and dislikes.
Spiritual: Prayer and Study. When we pray, we are communicating to God. But when we read our bible, HIS word, that’s God communicating to us. Next is, presence=faithfulness and commitment.
3. Earthly: You go on dates, you spend more time in his/her presence. You show affection by embracing them. You want to show them how much they matter to you. That you are faithful and committed to the relationship despite what your ego and others may say. Your focus is loving him/her unconditionally. And you know that love is a verb- it’s action.
Spiritual: Being in HIS presence through praise and worship. We show our level of commitment by being faithful in attending church. We don’t miss a Sunday because we’re too tired or have a headache. We want to show HIM we’re serious about this relationship. We are devoted to HIS will. Finally, is reverence.
4. Earthly: Trust and Honor. Your nature is submissive. Being submissive is not having a leash around your neck. It’s being flexible to your mate’s change. You’re vulnerable. Yet safe and secure enough to expose deep, personal and intimate things because your heart approves.
Spiritual: Trust and Honor. We’ve been so engaged with God that we know more of HIS secret ways. We see HIM more in ALL living creations. We yield to HIS will because we trust and honor HIM. The Holy Fear comes naturally because of who HE is. It’s not a “I’m scared to mess up because then HE will beat me” type of fear. This fear originates out of respect because of who God is. It’s anchored in hope. It grows by faith. And is fed by love. This here. This right here is the beginning of wisdom.